Some thoughts about Pre-Suppose and Self-Evidence Trap

Self-Evidence Trap is a new concept which is frequently discussed on the website.

It starts with the case that a Chinese girl, who studies at Oxford University, is being bullied online because of her dressing code. Those netizens began questioning her education experience and even her moral character just because of her dress style.

To be honest, when I learnt about it, I recalled my own experience of being attacked by rumors and bad words both at school and at work. And to tell you the truth, there can be any reason for those to spread rumors and to speak ill of you.

(i.e. They think you are ugly / you are beautiful / you perform well on academic / you perform bad on academic / you act too introvertedly / you behave outgoing / you belong to one of the minor groups due to your sexual orientation or other issues / …)

I actually did not understand that until I, myself, experienced such negative issues. And anger, depression, stress, anxiety, they all once came to me as the negative effect of these rumors.

But as I learn to focus more on myself and ignore them, I find myself stronger and more positive. And then I realize that it is not carrying everything in my life forward that makes me stronger. I realize that in my long life, nobody but myself will keep my accompany forever.

Next time I feel depressed by others’ unfair words, I would tell myself:

A strong person does not need “others’ proof” and “self-proof”, because he firmly believes that “ability to understand his own strengths and weaknesses, as well as to show his frankness”, is a kind of invulnerable and invincible characteristic itself.